As a benchmark on the path of life, Connectworks founder, Kathie Nelson is starting a movement on her 50th birthday….
“It’s Cool to Be You…yes, You!” National Day**
March 2nd – Est. 2011
What is the “It’s Cool to Be You!” National Day?
You know how most days you are thinking about what you can do better? Or what you’ve done wrong and need to fix? Or habits you need to change? What if you had a day where you gave yourself permission to focus on the good things about yourself and others? This is it!
This is a day dedicated to the affirmation of your “cool” factor. We all have one! It is that unique set of attributes that attracts others to you, makes life fun, and literally puts you in your peak performance zone. This applies to our personal and professional lives and needs to be celebrated EVERY day but just in case you forget, we’ve created a day registered with the National Special Events registry as a reminder.
There has never been a more important time to pursue your passion. That little voice inside that says “you were born for great things” is not fibbing. You were! If you don’t pursue the dream in your heart the world around you “feels” it. Conversely, if you do pursue being your best self, following your heart’s desire, and continuing to self-actualize….you are a world changer! Yes, you!
Imagine if you could quit wondering if people “got it” about who you are and you just started being your true self…kind of like getting comfortable in your own skin. No more trying to change yourself based on a standard others imposed or those you adopted at an early age to fit in…what would that look like? What would you do differently? More importantly, who would you BE? Would you be your best self? Would you be following your dreams?
What does it mean to me?
No matter where you are on your life’s journey, this is the day to notice, document, develop, and share those things that are cool about you. But don’t stop there. With intention and purpose…on THIS day, notice what is cool about others. Who knows? It could get to be a habit. Or a movement. Or a way of life!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
The practice of the “It’s Cool to Be You!” day starts with you but DOES NOT end with you. This purpose is not to give you bragging rights but rather to ground you in your gift mix. That place of confidence that accepts your strengths and gift mix. You may ask, “What is my gift mix?” It is your God-given strengths, your personal history, your experience, knowledge, and skills. Those people who know who they are are grounded. Grounded people are balanced, emotionally, physically, personally, and professionally. They are clear minded and focused. If this is an environment you want to create for yourself, this is a great place to start. Bonus for being grounded and secure: You are able to see others uniqueness with crystal clarity because you are not hung up on yourself.
Here are some tools:
Donald O. Clifton is the father of the Strengths Based revolution. Marcus Buckingham has become the spokesperson and torch bearer. You can access his tool here and affirm your strengths. (Hint: You buy the book and use the access code in the back to take an online assessment which gives you a report of your top 5 signature strength themes.)
Basic Youth Conflicts produced a guide in the 70’s (my formative years) called “Discerning Positive Character Qualities from Negative Behavior Traits“. I’ve used for the last two decades. It has been critical insight and perspective that has helped me work within teams, volunteer groups, my children, my family and community. Download here: Discerning Positive Character Qualities from Negative Behaviour Traits v5
Can I get the t-shirt?
Yes and no. We don’t have a t-shirt yet but we do have a coffee mug that you can sip your favorite hot beverage and be reminded of all that is cool about you. Proceeds from the sale of these products go to the following organizations:
- Portland Rescue Mission – Shepherd’s Door – Recovery for Portland’s homeless women and children.
- Itafari – Supporting the women and children survivors of the Rwandan genocide.
$7.50 each plus $2.50 shipping
**registered with the National Special Events Registry
“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well preserved body,
but rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up,
totally worn out, and
loudly proclaiming, WOW!!! What a ride!”
– Author Unknown
From the book “I Want What She’s Got! The Secrets of Creating an Outrageous Life”, co-authored by Kathie & her mom, Bette James Laughrun
Note from Kathie: Want to know what’s so cool about growing up?
“You get to keep all the learning from the ages you’ve ever been.” Madeline L’Engle
Statistics show that Boomers feel 14 years younger than they are and feel the age of 74 is old.
My mom, Bette Laughrun, at 74 is changing the world and inspiring women to define their own outrageous life. I have to keep up!
Milton S. Hershey was 40 and bankrupt. He went on to build an 80 million dollar empire, a school for orphans and established the town of Hershey, PA by the time he was 80. (He came up with the recipe for creamy caramels you enjoy today and sold to Lancaster Caramel Company because it wasn’t chocolate.)
I was inspired by Hershey at 38 and got started pursuing what was on my heart. I spent the first 38 years of my life waging an internal battle with a message I got very early in my life that is was not OK to be me and worked very hard to be the person I was expected to be. It’s is stressful to try to be someone you are not!
The perfect storm of events transpired in 1999 . I finally got sick and tired of the struggle. I decided to do the things I was good at, fun to do, and hang out with my *favorite people. The last 11 years has been quite the ride! Guess what! The Outrageous Life is there for you too. Simple but not easy, it’s all a matter of belief and choice.
*favorite people: positive, fun, forward focused, service oriented, grateful, friendly…. the list goes on but you get the drift.
Remember the words of a very wise man….
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.”
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
It’s cool to be you! Yes…You!------------------
To your success!